Use Your Body Language to Captivate Him

Have you ever tried to read your man and wondered what the #$@^!  was going through his mind?  Have you wanted some connection and intimacy with him and instead you got the cold shoulder?

Men are notorious for not being very verbally demonstrative. However we all know that they are hugely visual! So let’s play with that…as they say, 93% of communication is non-verbal.

Women are approximately TEN times better than men at reading body language

By paying attention and using your visual awareness you can pick up on his body language and he will “tell” you what’s going on for him- no words required!

As you learn how to control your space and communicate using your body your whole world will expand.

One of the first steps in learning body language is defining your own personal space.  By setting your personal space you are expressing your emotional boundaries.  The strongest relationships and dating scenarios are created by both sides having strong personal boundaries. By allowing a man into your personal space you are showing him that you trust him, respect him and are willing to show him affection.  Although physical boundaries can be easier to break than emotional boundaries, he will pick up on your vibes and subconsciously know that you’re willing to give him a chance and let him in.

When you get good at reading his body language you can practice on your own body language to practically create situations and a space that allows for more openness and fun between you and your guy.

Think of personal space as an expanding or collapsing balloon

Another trick to body language is you can learn how to collapse and expand the personal boundary that you have set.  If you notice your man is in a crappy mood, you can certainly expand the space by stepping back and allowing him time to recover.

Desire some closeness and intimacy? Collapsing the space is a quick move to see if he’s up for it: collapse the space and he steps away from you …then you know it’s time to retreat. Don’t push him – it  won’t go well as men can’t fake it. But by taking a step in and watching his reaction to your action, you can figure out where his head is at and go from there.

Show and Tell
I loved this time of kindergarten class when I was young. More so as an adult …the ultimate as a Goddess in the dating world!

A woman who touches herself exudes a confidence and shows that she is comfortable in her own skin.  By touching your neck or playing with your hair you give off a vibe that says you’re good with yourself and you are open and a potential strong playmate.  Subconsciously he will see that you are okay with touch; you like being touched, and you might want him to touch you.  He may even consciously pay attention where and how you would like to be touched.

Subtle moves like these can be sensual beyond belief (for you and him) and if done right will really amp up his attention.

It’s all in the eyes
If you’re not looking him in the eyes he’ll think you’re not paying attention and you don’t really care.  Tantric sex teachings go into great depth to showing us how much we connect with our eyes. In fact, I remember that one teacher said ‘The Power of Eye Contact Is The Power of Knowing’. Now I am not advocating Tantric eye contact outside of the bedroom as an everyday occurrence but connection really does start there.  Don’t be creepy and stare at him; you need to look away occasionally, but by making eye contact during conversation you’re sure to capture and keep his attention. Atraction is not a choice!

So let’s review
During any conversation with your man; if you’re subtly touching yourself, being attentive and making eye contact, you will show him that you are truly interested in him and what he has to say. Body language is a fine art.  One that every beautiful Goddess should master.  It takes practice and the only way to learn is through trial and error.  If you’re collapsing and expanding the space and realize something is going terribly wrong then change what you’re doing.  He might not understand what you’re doing but he will thank you for your efforts.