It’s always important, no matter what your relationship status, that you do your own thing. If you’re not staying true to yourself you’ll eventually lose the greatness that was once you and he’ll wonder why he was ever interested in you in the first place.
He’s attracted to you because you have a life, you’re interesting and you have hobbies that are cool. He won’t be attracted to you if he becomes the center of your universe and you never do anything without him. Let him live his life, you live yours; and join together somewhere in the middle. As Marni suggests in her article quoted below; interdependence means you both have lives outside of your relationship.
1. Do your own thing. Don’t let a man become the center of your universe. If you make a man your whole life, he’s going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered!
Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic “you” who has her own interests and passions who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing.
Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.”
Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends.
Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc.
Click here to read the full article by Marni Battista.