Is there ever a time when a woman should get over her sexuality and decide that she’s too old? I don’t think so; and neither does TLC because they’ve come out with a great new show called Extreme Cougar Wives. By the looks of things, these women aren’t giving up and despite what some might think of them – they are going for it. And by the looks of things; the men are soaking it up too. Check it out.

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There is a lot of controversy going around TLC’s new show – Extreme Cougar Wives. The young men who are dating these older women are getting a lot of trouble from their family and from their friends. No one understands it. And it makes me sad. Why can’t an older woman date a younger man? I see nothing wrong with it. If the two people are compatible and it works then why not? What do you think?

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Just because he’s introduced you to his family doesn’t mean you should assume you’re exclusive. Without open communication and an honest discussion about where your relationship is headed you’ll never know the truth. Making assumptions will only bring hurt to you in the end; especially if you find out he is seeing other people.

According to Marni Battista, words are helpful and we should use them sometimes. Just get up the courage to ask your man if he’s seeing other people. It’s not that difficult of a conversation; but it will be a lot more difficult if you just assume and don’t talk to him about it.

6. Don’t assume you are exclusive. As scary as it may seem to talk to your man about not seeing other people, it’s even scarier to just assume he isn’t seeing other people. Words are helpful, and you should use them sometimes.

So he tells you he wants to introduce you to his sister? Awesome! Still doesn’t mean you’re exclusive. Try something like, “You know, I’d really like not to see other people. How do you feel about that?” If he gives you an answer you aren’t looking for, buh-bye. And if he gives you a yes, fantastic! Go for it!

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I fully agree with the concept of allowing him to miss you a little bit. It’s important in any relationship not to harass your partner or make him think you’re stalking him. If you’re constantly texting him, emailing him or calling him he might think you don’t have a life outside of your relationship and that’s not going to make him want to be with you. Live your life and text him in between moments; and allow him to initiate contact.

According to this article by Marni Battista it’s important that you let the communication be balanced, and let the poor guy miss you a little bit. Give him time to think about you on his own so he can send a text to you.

5. Don’t call us all the time. Let us call you. If you’re consistently calling, texting, emailing, and doing all the asking out, a man won’t have to lift a finger. Let the communication be balanced.

This is not to say that you can’t ever reach out to a man you’re dating, but let him do the asking out–at least in the early stages.

If you’re both interested in each other, there will be a natural balance in the amount of communication. If you feel like you may be guilty of over-calling, take a break and see if he comes back and puts in the effort. If so, wonderful. And if not? Move on, sister! You deserve someone who wants to reach out to you, call you, and ask you out.

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Do you allow your man to call you instead of constantly harassing him with text messages? Share your thoughts with us by commenting below.

 Ladies, it’s not necessary to hop in the sack with a guy right away. Men like the chase and if you turn around and throw yourself at him before he even gets the chance to try; he’ll lose interest really quickly. I have a rule that says I don’t sleep with a guy until at LEAST date three but it often goes longer than that. Keep him interested by making him work for it a little bit. Trust me, if he’s attracted to you he’s not going to lose interest in you if you don’t sleep with him.

This article by Marni Battista suggests the same thing.

4. We always want you to invite us in after a first date, but we secretly hope you’ll say no. If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date. It will probably make him wonder if you would do the very same thing with every other Tom, Dick and Harry.

 This is also a good way to feel out whether he’s looking for some casual fun or something a little more serious. Often we believe that a man will expect us to get physical from the get-go and that if we don’t, men will lose interest if it doesn’t happen right away. In fact, it’s actually the opposite. It’s not a deal breaker every time, but it does make the “getting to know you” part more complicated.

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Do you make men wait for a few dates before allowing him in your bed? Share your thoughts with us by commenting below.

I don’t know why everyone is in such a rush these days. It’s not necessary for us to jump into relationships on the second date and pretend that everything is normal. It’s important to take your time when you’re dating and really get to know someone first. Although this article by Marni Battista suggests that we should wait until date 3 or 4 to even bring up relationships – I would argue that we should wait even longer.

My idea is to wait at least 3 months before getting into any serious relationship talk with someone you’ve been dating. This gives you plenty of time to work out any bugs, see if there’s any problems and really get to know the guy. You can’t get to know someone really well just with a few dates. After 3 dates everyone is still on their best behaviour and problems aren’t going to show up for a while yet. Take your time.

3. Some men ARE afraid of commitment (so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one).

 Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone. He’s going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend.

 So even though it’s great to let a new guy know where you are in your life or about your dating goals, take the time to get to know him before you decide. (We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four). As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time.

 Don’t rush the getting-to-know-each-other part. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.

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Although it’s not a good idea to pretend you’re someone you’re not; it’s also important to let him see you as you really are. Don’t drink too much before the date in order to relax, and don’t drink too much during the date just because you’re nervous. Limit yourself to a maximum of 2 drinks and let him see the real you.

And if he’s eating, order food for yourself. I had to laugh at this piece of an article I found by Marni Battista. A woman who eats all the food off her dates plate is probably not going to score any points.

2. Don’t overindulge on a date. While you might think it cute to have three glasses of wine at dinner, he does not. Let him get to know you as you are. If you need to loosen up before a date, watch a comedy right before you leave or take a walk.

 Also, order a real dinner. One guy told us that he went on a first date and his date wouldn’t order any food because she wasn’t “hungry.” But then every time he cut a piece of steak on his plate, she reached over and ate it! Best to leave your glass half full and your plate empty(ish).

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Do you tend to overindulge when you go out on dates? Share your thoughts with us by commenting below.

It’s always important, no matter what your relationship status, that you do your own thing. If you’re not staying true to yourself you’ll eventually lose the greatness that was once you and he’ll wonder why he was ever interested in you in the first place.

He’s attracted to you because you have a life, you’re interesting and you have hobbies that are cool. He won’t be attracted to you if he becomes the center of your universe and you never do anything without him. Let him live his life, you live yours; and join together somewhere in the middle. As Marni suggests in her article quoted below; interdependence means you both have lives outside of your relationship.

1. Do your own thing. Don’t let a man become the center of your universe. If you make a man your whole life, he’s going to lose interest because he will most likely feel smothered!

Remember, he fell in love with the dynamic “you” who has her own interests and passions who wanted to make him a part of your life, not the whole darn thing.

Men are attracted to confident women who get the concept of “interdependence.”

Interdependence requires that you’re both independent and dependent; that means you create sacred space for your relationship as well as sacred space for your work, passions and friends.

Don’t lose the things that are most important to you, and keep doing what you were doing before you started dating him: your Sunday morning yoga class, a yearly vacation with your college roommates, etc.

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If you really want to meet men and go out on dates then you have to make it a priority in your life. It’s necessary for you to make changes in your life that will allow time for dates and for men. You probably have a full and fantastic life; but if you’re lonely and want to start dating you can’t expect a man to wait 3 weeks to have a date with you. You need to make the time when he calls you so that you can get together with him; otherwise he’ll just blow you off and he’ll think you’re not interested in him.

Make the changes in your life in order to fit dates in your busy schedule. It’s up to you to make the change.

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