A blind date can quickly turn into a bad date. You need to learn when to cut your losses. Anything can go wrong -even from the very beginning. You could be stood up. If that is the case, have a glass of wine and go home and watch a movie, maybe even the movie “Blind Date”. There will be other dates, don’t waste your time wondering about that loser.
Sometimes you know at the get-go that he isn’t the man for you. Perhaps, like Pat Lunsford’s date, he’s taken you to MacDonalds. Not that there is anything wrong with fast food, but it isn’t ‘first date dining’. Don’t be rude, or say you are going to the washroom and never come back. That’s just mean. You can let him know that you don’t feel that the two of you are a match, in a gentle manner. Maybe he is a wonderful guy, but doesn’t have money for a date, don’t rule him out. He might be a struggling artist or writer who is going to make it big one day.
On the other hand, if he wants to get food at the drive-thru and park somewhere, tell him where to go with his supersized drink and hamburger. If he is downright nasty, you have the right to leave, but tell him why, you’ll be doing him and future dates a favour, and you’ll get it off your chest.
Blind dates are usually arranged by well-meaning friends or family and more often than not, they turn out to be virtual nightmares. Ar first you begin to wonder if maybe it was a practical joke, until you realize, it’s no joke. Your friends either pawned the person off on you, or they honestly believed you would make a good couple.
I learned a lot about him on the way to the restaurant because he never once asked anything about me and told me his whole life story. He lived with his parents who were still supporting him until he invented something that would make him rich. And when we got to the restaurant, he opened my door and said that his mother had given him the money for the date. As we approached the restaurant, he told me that he was going to order the quarter-pounder meal and that I could order anything I wanted, and even super-size it. He then suggested a Big-Mac. It wasn’t exactly the kind of restaurant I had in mind, but I ordered a fish fillet and tea.
He carried our tray to one of the tables in the dinning room and asked me if I would get the drinks while he went to the bathroom to, as he put it, “make room for his dinner.” I had a pretty good idea what he meant, but certainly wasn’t going to ask him to verify it. And when I asked him what he wanted to drink, he asked for a suicide. When I hesitated, he said it was a mixture of all the available drinks.
The only way to end a bad blind date is with the truth, otherwise, it will come back to haunt you. Situations like that are highly possible when you accept a blind date. Therefore, if you are not prepared to gracefully back out of a bad blind date, you really shouldn’t accept it in the first place.
We would love to hear how you handled a bad blind date.