How To Put The Fun Back Into Dating!

He Loves You… But Loves His Stomach More

They say that men love good food. Their relationship with food is so deep and unexplainable that it drives women crazy in the kitchen. Since the days where men would hunt for meat to give to their female friend to cook, women have known that food is very important to them.

Dare I say, even more important than blowjobs at times?

The famous quote “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” is one that women know all too well. Yet, a man’s love affair with food causes us to ask ourselves questions like: How can they not understand our chocolate cravings when we get our periods?

But unlike our cravings, a few men need someone to cook them what their stomach craves. So what should we be making if we want to reward them for good behavior?

I’ve whipped up 5 ways you can move the heat from the kitchen to the bedroom…or the kitchen counter!

Create an aphrodisiac meal together. Cooking together in the kitchen might be something you do everyday,  however try setting up somewhere exotic and make a meal to boost your libidos.

Mini tasting à deux. Arrange for each party to buy bite-sized food which will appeal to everyone consisting of an entrée, main and dessert. Then begin a rating game where you rate and review each other’s choice and let them know which tasting turns you on.

Get dirty. Try making a white cheesecake or a regular vanilla cake with lots of frosting and feed it to each other (minus the forks). Yummy in my tummy! Get gooey together and don’t forget to clean each other up afterwards (no napkins either).

Dessert bar. Who doesn’t love dessert? Create a major dessert spread on the coffee table with chocolate sundae bits, cookies, ice cream, fresh berries, and whipped cream. It will take him back to a child like happy place. But while you enjoy your sundaes, don’t forget to leave some room for the dessert where calories don’t count!

Try something new. An eater who’s been stuck in a meal rut can’t resist a surprise dinner with unusual and exotic tastes. This will help you both explore your palate and taste buds!

So we have an idea on what to make them, but what’s with their preference of having us prepare the meal? Here are a few possible reasons.

Men love women who cook

Men are always hunting for women. It’s their primal instinct.  At the end of the day if a guy had to choose between a woman who can cook and another who cannot, chances are he’ll pick the one who can cook.

According to writer and blogger Stuart McDonald**, he says there are many reasons why men choose the cook over the non-cook. He says that if a woman says she doesn’t cook that means she can’t.  Even with the modern woman crunching on time, making a full course meal on a regular basis seems like a luxury. So why do men still  love women who can cook?

  1. Men love to eat ( that will never change)
  2. Men think with their stomachs ( A hungry man is a irritable and unfocused man)
  3. Lastly, a woman who can cook reminds them of their mother. ( It always come home)

But, at the core of it all men love women who can cook because it potentially means their family or future family will be taken care of.

From the very beginning men were created to protect and provide for their families. However, before having family with a woman, he needs to make sure that she can take care of the family by providing basic necessities like food, water, and shelter. Passing this test shows love for men at an instinctual level and perpetuates that a woman’s role is in the kitchen. However, this is not necessarily true with today’s run of the mill man. But if the time came for him to choose, he would always pick a woman who can cook over one who cannot.

Male patriarchy?

We know that men love their women who can cook something up in the kitchen. However, it may be said that in some relationships men are still treating the women in their lives unfairly.

In the era of the baby boomer, men would come home hungry and would have a certain expectation to dinner being ready or almost ready. If she wasn’t home, he would wait till she got there. We rarely see this happen today.

According to a poll* in Esquire conducted last year, 14% more men cook now than they did in 1965. Personally I believe that this newfound food interest frenzied from restaurants, whole foods , and Food Network stars has created a culture. It seems that more and more men are inspired to pick up a knife and start cutting.

Now, my ladies, the game has changed.

Men are starting to help out in the kitchen. Men who cook spend 8% more time cooking now than their fathers did back then. Today, men describe themselves as “adventurous” cooks claiming that the use of their ingredients, recipes, and techniques has made them a better cook.

Masterchef explosion? Possibly.

Men are getting inspired by male TV chefs such as Jamie Oliver, Gordon Ramsay, and Nigel Slater. Forget special occasions like Christmas and Valentine’s Day because men are taking over the apron every other day of the week. There’s also this frenzy where men enjoying the shopping for new kitchen gadgets and appliances. Men are finally experimenting in the kitchen while making their wives open up the bottle of wine and fix the table.

Adding some spice in your next meal can also turn up the heat in your relationship. Next time you’re in the house together try creating and making your own memories starting in the kitchen. Not only will your man be pleasantly surprised and stuffed but chances are he’ll keep you forever!

* “Are Men The Future Of Cooking?” Elizabeth Gunnison Dunn. Esquire. accessed February 10, 2014 http ://www.esquire. com/blogs/food-for-men/men-cook-more-now-than-ever-15506451

** “The Reason Men Love Women Who Cook” Stuart Mc Donald accessed February 10, 2014 http ://www.stuartbmcdonald . com/reason-men-love-women-cook/#.Uvlw10JdVyi

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The Crime Everyone’s Dying To Commit!

Here at How To Put The Fun Back Into Dating, we don’t recommend for anyone to commit a crimes…but there is one mild criminal act that most people do commit at their own risk of indecent exposure, and that’s sex in public.

A lot of people would agree, sex is public is incredible and the risk of getting caught adds to the excitement. But there is a right way to do it, and a wrong way. If you and your partner are willing to take a walk on the wildside, here are few quick tips you should follow:

1. Make Sure You’re Alone: Be very aware of your surroundings. Make sure there’s nobody watching you and there are no children around. By not being careful is a quick way to getting caught.

2. Watch Your Noise Level: Sometimes, sex can be so great you’ll want to make a sound or two. But being too loud and careless about the level of noise you make, makes it easy for you to be noticed by others.

3. Clean Up After Yourselves: This is the golden rule. If you’re going to get busy someplace, the least you can do is be courteous to the people who may stumble upon your love nest after you’ve left. Don’t leave the area with less that you came with, it’s just gross if you don’t.

Now that you know the three simple steps in how to have safe public sex and you’re still thinking of taking that risk, you ask yourself, “where?” Here are a few places Fox News* and The Stir** had in mind and the risk level you could be taking from 1 to 5:

  • Night Club/Concert (3): Music is just one of those things that get you in the mood without even trying. If the thump of the beat or lyrics to the song get you, sneaking away to a bathroom or a secluded nook in the building is a good spot to get it on. This place is rated 3 as a hit or miss in risk, but with the loud music on your side you shouldn’t have to worry much.

  • Park Bench (4): Sitting on a bench at the park with your partner can be a romantic moment. But getting your groove on, on that bench is another story! Make sure the park is empty or very close to empty. This place is rated a 4 for  the fact of joggers, children, and police roaming the grounds.

  • The Backyard (1): If you have a backyard with or without a fence, this may be a good spot to start your public sex escapades. Having a fence, you’re at an advantage of no one seeing you, but if you don’t have a fence The Stir suggests pitching a tent. Since you’re not at a great risk of fully exposing yourself, this is rated a 1.

  • Parked Car (2): Having sex in a parked car can bring a bit of nostalgia back in your life. As long as you’re parked in a secluded area and have a big enough vehicle to satisfy each other, there’s nothing really stopping you. Just be wary of police looking out for fogged windows, and with that mild risk it’s rated a 2.

  • Elevator (5): Having some fun in an empty elevator is super tricky, but super hot! Each level you go up is another risk of the doors opening and you getting caught, not to mention the possibility of  the security camera. If you can get away with this, you deserve a medal, that’s why it’s rated a 5.

  • Public Transportation (5): Getting your kicks on public transportation is some of the hardest and most at risk places to have sex. This includes buses, and yes the infamous mile high club! With public trans, there are always cameras, there are always attendants, and there are always nosy people; not to mention the cramped spaces. Sex here can run the risk of you getting kicked off, and derailing your travel plans, so if you get away with it I applaud you! This is why it’s rated at a 5.

Having sex in a public setting is not for the shy or faint hearted. When you do decide to take your love life up that ladder, make sure it’s something that you really want to do. Don’t let your partner pressure you into it, and have fun!

*“FOXSexpert: The 20 Riskiest Places to Have Sex” Fox News. Com accessed 2/6/2014. http ://www.foxnews. com/story/2009/02/12/foxsexpert-20-riskiest-places-to-have-sex/** “25 Mind-Blowing Sex Spots You Never Thought to Try” Jamye Waxman, The Stir accessed 2/6/2014. htt p://thestir. cafemom. com/love_sex/121952/25_Mind_Blowing_Sex_Spots

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15 At Home Date Night Wonders!

You may be under the impression you need to leave the house to have a great date night, however there are a number of fun ways to enjoy your man and your time together at home!

Sometimes life gets busy, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect alone time with your man where you can keep the excitement alive within the relationship by indulging in frequent date nights.

Now is a better time than ever to get creative with your date ideas and bring date night to the comfort of your own home. Here are the top 15 date ideas as presented by the website Happy Housewives.

1. Iron Chef at home edition.
Cooking together can be a fun way to keep the connection alive between you and your man. The experts at Happy Housewives suggest putting a twist on it and make chocolate the main ingredient in all the meals!. Not only is chocolate supposed to have an aphrodisiac effect on people, it also is an incredibly tasty ingredient to include in your cooking. Happy Housewives proposes “you either make a meal together or divide up the courses between each of you and surprise the other with your sweet & savory creations.”

2. Trivia night with a naked twist.
Indulge yourself and your honey in a little game of strip trivia. Ask each other questions that will require you to dispose of an item of clothing with every wrong answer. Stripping adds an element of excitement to the game and could be a precursor to what’s to come later on in the night. Perhaps you won’t even be able to get through the game as you tease your partner, he may just jump your bones sooner!

3. Have a theme night.
Come up with a theme for the night and centre everything you do around it. For instance, you could have a Mexican night, make guacamole and chips followed by tacos and dancing to traditional music. It doesn’t matter what you pick, but playing along will create a bit of fun for both of you. You could even incorporate dressing up as a way to spice things up in the bedroom for dessert!

4.Parisian nights at home.
Emulate the French with a night in making crepes with your sweetie and drawing caricatures of each other. Not only will you get to indulge in delicious crepes when you’re done but it’s also a fun and creative way of enjoying each others company indoors!

5. Dress up and stay in.
Who says you need an occasion to dress up? Put on one of your nicest outfits and have him don a suit as you light candles and have a nice dinner party for two at home. Once the right ambiance is created it, you and your partner will get lost in the romance of a fancy night in.

6. Role play movie characters.
Dress up as a character out of your favorite movie and stay true to the part all night. It will be a fun and creative way to play dress up and potentially segway into a little roleplay in the bedroom after!

7. Take a dream date survey.
Create a survey that both of you can take to come up with what your idea of a dream date would be.  Hand over the surveys to each other when you’re done and see how much of both you can recreate in the comfort of your own home. Time to get creative!

8. Create a love nest in your bedroom.
Buy a canopy to hang over your bead, light up some candles, throw some rose petals on the bed, and play some romantic music. It will feel like a romantic getaway in a hotel, as opposed to a set up in your room. Vacation sex can be very fun so why not pretend for the night that you’re away somewhere exotic. Bring out each other’s wild side!

9. Karaoke night.
Youtube some classics and belt out some tunes to one another! Perhaps your voice isn’t the greatest? Fortunately, this isn’t a competition for who’s the best singer but rather a fun way for you and your partner to get playful and serenade each other.

10. Plan a vacation.
Spend the night browsing through travel brochures and websites and plan your next vacation! Even if you won’t be able to get a way in the foreseeable future, it’s still encouraging to plan an exciting vacation to look forward to!

11. Video tape the story of how you met.
One day you may have kids or maybe it will be years down the road and you will love to remember how it is that you first met and fell in love. Sit down with your partner and record yourselves as you remember the story of how you met and fell in love from both of your perspectives.

12. Create an at-home wine bar.
Pick up a couple of bottles of wine, and some snacks for a charcuterie board as you lay it all out and play your favorite tunes. It will feel like a night out but instead of worrying about how your getting home, you already will be there!

13. Have a spa date.
What better way to spend a night in then set up an at-home massage parlor and treat each other to some luxury. Take turns rubbing one another down with essential oils as you play some spa music in the background to really set the mood.  Finish the night off by jumping into the tub together and keep the romance going.

14.  Play the Newlyweds game.
Search online for questions you can ask one another as you see how well you truly know each other! It’s a fun way to rediscover one another and remind each other of what traits you fell in love with in the first place.

15. Have a movie marathon.
Create the illusion of a theatre in your own home by getting lots of popcorn and playing a number of your favorite movies back to back. Better yet if its summertime, invest in a projector and set it up in your backyard. There is something incredibly fun and romantic about watching movies under the stars.

Having a date night at home means that you can have just as much fun without worrying about spending too much time or money. There are plenty of opportunities to enjoy each others’ company even if you can’t find the time to get outdoors. Most importantly appreciate your partner and the time you get to spend together, and you’re bound to have a great time no matter where you are.

“Top 20 Stay-At-Home Date Night Ideas” Fawn Weaver. Happy Wives accessed February 2, 2014.  http ://www.happywivesclub. com/top-20-stay-at-home-date-night-ideas/

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10 Halloween Costumes For Behind Closed Doors!

Role playing with your man is one of the sexiest and most fun ways to spice things up in the bedroom! Whether you have tried it before or you have been too shy in the past, there is no better time than now to let loose and play a little. Not only does it provide you and your honey with an opportunity to act on your wildest fantasies, it will also bring you two closer together. If you feel uncomfortable initiating role play with your partner, you’re in luck because Halloween is upon us! What better way to test out the waters than during this time of year?

Talk to your man about some costume ideas, then go shopping separately to build up the anticipation and excitement. There is something incredibly sexy about the element of surprise, especially when it comes to playing dress up. Once both of you have a general idea of a scenario you like, it is important to discuss a few guidelines so that both partners are comfortable throughout the whole process. Most importantly though, have fun with it and embrace your character! This is a perfect opportunity to be someone you are not and thus do things you may have always wanted to but were too shy to try. Role playing is the surest way to maximize pleasure for you and your partner, so go ahead and indulge in some R rated play time. Here are ten suggestions for characters and scenarios that might be a good place to start.

Teacher and student. This is an easy one to start with and a spin on the classic naughty schoolgirl scenario, for those that are new to roleplaying. Have your man dress up in school uniform, and dress yourself up as a sexy, stern teacher, ruler in hand. Set up the scenario so that he is misbehaving and you need to put him in his place. Being a dominatrix in the bedroom can be very pleasure filled for you both, as you take the lead and guide him to do exactly what you want him to do.

Pilot and flight attendant. Ever fantasized about joining the mile high club? Well now is your chance to do so without having to leave your home. This scenario can be incredibly hot as you start by flirting with each other, gradually building up sexual tension and then passionately taking things to the next level. He’s the boss and you’re his subordinate in this fantasy, so let him take the lead.

Cowboys and Indians. Think strong female, strong male in this scenario. Have your partner get a lasso for this costume and give yourselves the option of having a little fun tying each other up. Indulging in a little light bondage can be very steamy if you’re both comfortable with it and agree upon how rough you want it to get. Feel free to let your imaginations run wild with this one!

Patient and Nurse. Another fun classic allowing you to play up your nurturing instincts and take care of him in more ways than one. Lend him a hand (pun totally intended) and offer up your special touch as you tend to his areas of need.

Ganster and stripper. He’s a rough around the edges gangster and you’re the sultry dancer that he wants so desperately to touch but can’t. Not yet anyway. Teasing him is the key to this scenario. Have him sit back as you put on a show, dance seductively, and slowly begin to strip. Studies have proven that when it comes to desire and pleasure that sight is actually one of the senses that has the biggest affect on the two, especially for men. The visual of your body seductively moving in front of him will make for a passionate night once he finally does get to touch you.

Cop and criminal. This is another classic scenario that can be switched up depending who wants to take the lead. A lady in charge can be pretty hot but if you would rather be in the submissive role, let him play the cop and you play the criminal. Set up the scenario so that one of you got busted doing something naughty and is getting cuffed, or mix it up and play the criminal trying to seduce the cop into letting you go. Whichever way you decide to play it, it’s sexy, exciting and will leave both of you wanting more!

The Wolf and Little Red Riding Hood. This can be a really fun one if you both commit to the characters. He should portray a very masculine and strong Wolf, to your innocent and doe eyed Little Red Riding Hood. Have him lure you into his lair and take advantage of you in the best ways possible. It’s just like the fairy tale except in this scenario, him eating you isn’t such a bad thing.

President and secretary. Need I say more? We all know how the story goes for this one but that doesn’t mean that it’s not fun. The forbidden element plays an important role in this set up that will ignite an unstoppable passion between you and your partner.

Bad boy and preppy school girl. Think classics like Grease or Breakfast Club for this one. This is a typical boy-meets-girl scenario where the bad boy gets to corrupt the innocent school girl. This is a light and fun role playing scenario that you can take in whichever direction you feel is right. Whether you let him guide you or the innocent schoolgirl is not so innocent after all is entirely up to you.

Truck driver and hitch hiker. Within this scenario you are complete strangers. You don’t know anything about each other, and yet sexually you are incredibly drawn to one another. Spare the small talk and get straight down to business. The urgency of it and the fact that you are playing complete strangers will entice you into doing things with one another that you may have not tried before. Keep in mind that he will probably never get to see this mystery woman, who he picked up on the side of the road, ever again. Fantasies are meant to be fun and allow you to explore different elements within the bedroom so don’t be shy!

Fantasy and role play in the bedroom are the surest way to fire up anyone’s libido and create a fun and exciting atmosphere. All of the costume ideas that I have mentioned can be easily worn out to a halloween party and brought back home with you after, making role play easy and accessible. You’re already going to be dressed up so why not have a little fun with it?  The characters and scenarios can get as whacky and wild as you’d like if thats what you’re into. Even if you want to go as Lady and the tramp and go at it doggie style all night. You get the point. It’s your fantasy! Get creative, get wild and most importantly enjoy!

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