First Date Advice: What To Talk About

Written by Cindy Van Arnam on . Posted in Dating Advice, Dating Advice for Women, Dating Dos and Don'ts, Fun Dating Questions, Fun In Dating, How to Date a Man, What to do in Dating

First Date Advice:  What To Talk AboutOftentimes we wonder what to do in dating and how to date a man.  We struggle to find words to say on the first date.  We don’t know how to act and we are not prepared.  This is why we are so nervous for the first date.  So, if you want to have fun in dating; especially on your first date; it’s important to come prepared.  Having an idea of things you can talk about before ever going on the date in the first place is a great starting place.

No.1′How was your day?’

   This conversation starter is perfect to avoid embarrassing silence. People have no problem talking about themselves especially when it comes to work and their daily schedule. This question works magic with your conversation and creates the impression that you’re really interested in everything about the lifestyle of your date.

No.2 Past Conversations

   Though it might be your first date, probably you’ve met before. Use the past conversations and events as the perfect subject for small talk.

    Ask your date about where he was when you phoned him last time. You can also find out more about his favorite travel destinations and other details.

No.3 Talk About Not Talking

   Silence can be pretty embarrassing. Therefore, why not have fun while mentioning that it is difficult to find a theme you both enjoy.

   It will definitely make you more relaxed and you can also make a few jokes on this subject.

No.4 Questions with Open Ending

   Always ask questions that have an open ending. Skip those ones that can be answered with ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Avoid creating the atmosphere of an interrogation and let him do the talking instead.

No.5 Talk about the Place You’re In

   Ask him whether he is a regular customer there and what are other places he likes to visit in your town or other cities. This is a perfect conversation starter if you wish to rule out the chance of running out of any subjects for delightful small talks.

No.6 Make Them Smart and Useful

    If you have a problem, go ahead and ask them for any advice. Make sure these problems will still preserve your spotless reputation and these are related to job or hobbies. Skip topics such as family conflicts, exes and other personal problems. If you’ll have the communication skills to make him feel useful and confident, you’ll earn the privilege of a second date.

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You wouldn’t go into a job interview unprepared, and if you want to make a great first impression you shouldn’t go into a first date unprepared either.  It’s always a great idea to think of conversation topics before you meet with him; and have a backup plan if things go south.  What kind of things do you plan for on a first date?  Let us know by commenting below.

First Date Advice: Using Coupons on a First Date

Written by Cindy Van Arnam on . Posted in Dating Advice, Dating Advice for Women, Fun Dating Questions, Fun In Dating, Fun Romantic Date Ideas, Womens Dating Advice

First Date Advice:  Using Coupons on a First DateIf you’re headed out on a first date it might be a good idea to leave the Groupon at home and use it on the third or fourth date.  It seems that people don’t appreciate frugality on a first date.  However, with that being said there’s a bit of fun information about Groupon that I wasn’t aware of until I read this article this morning.  If you’re looking for some fun in dating and a relationship and college tuition for your baby – this might be something for you to check out. It might make you want to use that Groupon on the first date despite it being tacky.

Did you know Groupon has its own dating site, Grouspawn? Therein lies perhaps the most enticing deal of all: if you happen to use a Groupon on your first date, then document it meticulously, then conceive a child, you can apply to get that child’s college tuition paid for by Groupon. All of this is to say that no, using an online coupon on a date doesn’t automatically make you a weirdo or cheapskate. Using Groupon to spawn a child in order to get a $60,000 trust fund, however, is just practical fiscal advice in today’s struggling economy.

Online coupons like Groupon and LivingSocial have been wholeheartedly embraced by the Internet generation, and the trend will presumably continue to grow (well, except for Facebook Deals, which recently met its demise). Just a few days ago, Groupon invaded academia by offering decreased tuition on a grad-level introduction-to-teaching course at National Louis University, according to The Chicago Tribune.

When it comes to your love life, however, it would probably behoove you not to whip out a coupon on the first date, especially if it’s for something small or boring. Such a gesture may appear gauche, uncouth, or give off the impression that your date is not worth her or his weight in Pinkberry, and then you will never get the hot, over-the-jeans action that frozen yogurt consumption inspires in certain young ladies. If the date is creative, like trapeze flying or a trip to Jackson Arms shooting range, then you have more leeway to use an online coupon because of the adventure aspect. You’re broadening your date’s horizons! And this Glock isn’t gonna pay for itself.

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First Date Advice: The First Impression

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First Date Advice: The First ImpressionThe all important first impression on a first date can be nerve wracking but if you go in with some good advice and you know what to do in dating you’ll be just fine.  You need to be able to have fun in dating so the best way to do that is arm yourself with the best tools and advice before you try to figure out how to date a man.

There are a couple of things that you need to know about a first date.  First of all, you have about 20 minutes for the man to decide if he’d like to date you again.  This means you have a very short window to make him see the fun, beautiful Goddess in you.  So don’t be shy and hide behind a smoke screen.  Have confidence and show him the real you right away.

Did you know that you have approximately 20 minutes to make a good impression – or avoid a bad one – on a first date? The reason is it takes about that much time for singles to decide whether or not to see someone again. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to pull out all the stops in the first 20 minutes in order to impress someone; however, it does mean that there are two little things you can do to give yourself an advantage and keep a date intrigued.

Ask Questions, Remember the Golden Rule
So what is a first date all about again? It’s a chance to get to know someone. And you certainly can’t get to know someone without asking questions. Therefore, don’t spend the whole date talking about you. It’s so easy these days to get bogged down in what’s going on in our own lives, that we don’t take time to sincerely ask what’s going on with other people’s lives. The key is, be self-aware; if you know you enjoy talking a lot, take a chance to shift the conversation. If you know you’re shy, then this is your chance to speak up. Confidence is key.

Also, there is nothing more unattractive than being rude or dismissive of those serving you coffee, lunch or dinner, driving you in a cab, and so on. Remember the Golden Rule when you’re out with a new companion; trust us, your date will notice and react positively.

Avoid Deal Breakers, Avoid Deals
According to another set of first impression criteria, It’s Just Lunch respondents came back at us with a few deal breakers that could derail the potential for a second date. Among them; answering a phone call or text, drinking too much, being late, and not having any interests in common. Unless it’s an absolute emergency, put the phone away during a date— you can’t get to know someone if your distracted by calls and texts. Keep the alcohol use to a minimum and don’t show up late (and whatever you do, do not show up late and drunk.) However the biggest deal breaker is, not surprisingly, a lack of common interests. Sometimes, you might find you don’t have anything in common with your date, and that’s ok. Relax, and don’t push it.

Also, a new trend in dating is deciding on whether or not to bring an online coupon, such as a Groupon or Living Social deal to a first date. Our advice? Ditch it. Only 20% of our respondents said it’s a smart idea. We agree with the majority that it looks both tacky and cheap.

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First Date Advice: Don’t Talk About It

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First Date Advice:  Don’t Talk About ItWhen you’re heading out on your first date and you’re wondering what to do in dating and how to date a man it’s important that you’re aware of what NOT to talk about on that first date.  There are certain subjects that we just don’t broach on a first date – unless circumstances call for it.  Have fun in dating by talking about less personal subjects, ask him a lot of questions and keep the conversation light and easy.  Here are a few things to avoid in conversation on your first date; in order to leave a good and lasting impression.

Dieting and exercising is definitely good if you’re going the healthy way, but that is definitely not something your date wants to hear on your first date. Everyone will appreciate your healthy lifestyle choice, but on your first date try to find other pleasant ways to explore each other’s personalities. A person that talks too much about themselves and their body is most likely not going to be asked on a second date.

Your ex boyfriend/girlfriend is definitely a No – No subject as no one wants to hear you complain or brag about your ex. Talking about your ex might make you seem still way too attached and that usually scares people off. Talk to your friends about failed relationships for starters.

Your sexual experience is a subject that you want to avoid especially on your first date if you don’t want to create the impression you’re slutty. Guys find girls to be more attractive if they maintain a more mysterious allure which enables them to fantasize.

Every girl loves shopping, but your date will most definitely not care where you shop and what you bought this week. If you want to go on a shopping spree together one day, make sure you don’t seem to be a shopaholic on your first date.

Don’t be super excited about your drink and talk about the numerous cocktails you find delicious or you’ve had last weekend, as you don’t want to give the impression you like alcohol way too much. Plus make sure you don’t have too many drinks as getting tipsy on your first date isn’t sexy.

Money is definitely a subject that you should stay away from. You don’t want to create the impression you’re a ‘material girl’ or that you’re too rich or too poor. You’ll find out what you want to know eventually.

Don’t talk about your personal problems as you might appear like a person that likes to whine and complain too much, and men find this a turn off. When you’re on your first date try to discover the other person’s preferences and not talk about you and your problems too much.

Marriage is a subject that you should definitely stay away from at least for a couple of months as you don’t want to scare your date off. Everyone wants to walk on the aisle at one point, but you don’t want to look like you’re desperate to get married.

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Are there other subjects that you can think of that you avoid talking about on a first date?  Let us know what they are by commenting below.

First Date Advice: Double-Booking

Written by Cindy Van Arnam on . Posted in Dating Advice Online, Dating Dos and Don'ts, Fun Dating Questions, Fun In Dating, Fun Romantic Date Ideas, How to Date a Man, Online Dating Advice, What to do in Dating

What to do in dating can be a difficult thing to figure out at times and if you’re involved in the online dating scene it can be even more overwhelming.  I came across some advice this morning that I wasn’t too sure about; but then I realized I’ve actually used this trick myself a few times!

First Date Advice:  Double-Booking
The online dating scene can get hectic after a time, and when you’ve got several guys on the go it’s hard to see all of them as you’ve only got so many days in the week.  So, in comes the term; double-booking.  If you’ve got a couple of first dates to go on but only time to go out one evening this week – consider booking the dates 2 hours apart.

Today I would like to introduce the concept of double booking.

There are only so many days in a week and there are just so many beautiful women out there to date.  Does this mean we must limit ourselves to 2 or 3 dates per week?  Not at all.

Sometimes it is a great idea to double book your dates when meeting women online. What I mean by this is, set up one for 7, and one for 9 o’clock in a nearby location.

This can serve a couple of benefits.

For starters, you have two dates.  Obvious, but great.

Secondly, this provides you with a short window.  If we run our game right and leave our first date after only an hour an a half, we will without a doubt appear in high demand.  In addition, out willingness to leave will raise our value.

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First Date Advice: Stick To One Place

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When you’re looking to have some fun in dating and you’re wondering what to do in dating it’s important to remember that some people out there have some great advice.  They have probably tried it and found it to work; and that’s why they are sharing it now.  I found this great article and loved the advice that was given.  It completely makes sense and would work for both men and women in the dating scene.

First Date Advice: Stick To One Place
Now, if instead of going to a different place each night, go against the popular first date advice and go to the same one for a few weeks or even months, people start to notice you.

The manager will come up and say hi to you.

The waitresses will welcome you and guide you to the table. If she likes you, and she should at this point, it will be the best table in the place.

They will treat you like a king if you make sure they have a reason for it.

This is people DHVing for you without you having to ask or really work for it. Seriously, it’s pretty much priceless, it amps your credibility exponentially.

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I think this is great advice and by going to one place all the time and having all of the staff know you; you’re more likely to impress a first date.  There’s something to be said about V.I.P.; and this is a great example of it.  What do you think?  Let us know by commenting below.

First Date Advice: Have Someone Talking In Your Ear

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I saw this great new show that helps woman who don’t know how to date a man.  Steve Ward and Simone Bienne are literally talking in your ear as you go through your first date.  They tell you exactly what to do in dating and make it a lot more relaxing for your first date.  With someone to help you through the nerves and give you tips on your body language; it makes it a lot easier to be yourself and relax.  I think this is a great idea, and if you can’t get Steve and Simone to do it for you; get a friend to help!

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Fun Dating: Who Says Women Aren’t Up For Fun In Dating

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Twenty years ago we were still stuck in a society where women fretted about how to date a man and what to do in dating.  Times are changing.  Women are confident and are looking for something other than the white picket fence.  Women are more interested in their careers and creating a life full of joy than settling down with Mr. Not Quite Right and getting divorced a few years later because they weren’t enjoying themselves.

Fun Dating: Who Says Women Aren’t Up For Fun In Dating
A group of women has started a new online dating site that is sure to succeed.  Instead of weeding through thousands of profiles to find a relationship; this site is dedicated to helping people find that casual hook-up.  It allows everyone to relax and know exactly what it is they are getting into.  And I see nothing wrong with that at all.

With the advent of a new generation of online dating, people have been searching for an online site that caters to their needs. They’re looking for a dating site that’s all about keeping it casual. One such dating site is iHookup.com. This casual dating site saw a hole in the market for people who have had their fill of the long-term relationship. It might be they’re just getting out of a marriage or something serious and need to test the waters before trying it again. It could be that they’re just too busy with work to get involved with someone seriously.

What’s even more interesting about iHookup.com is that is was started by a handful of forward-thinking women who realized that women like sex as much as men do. Catering to flexible, fun and adventurous people chasing the thrill of sexual chemistry, iHookup.com hooks people up with a great time and no commitment.

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Fun Dating: Don’t Forget To Have Fun

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With all the advice that is out there about online dating, or even just regular dating; there is a lot of information out there designed to scare.  Many women are afraid to try online dating out of fear that something bad will happen to them.  But if you’re wondering what to do in dating it’s time to step out of the fear and put yourself out there.  Many of us seem to forget how much fun in dating is out there and we focus on the fear instead.  Don’t forget to have fun in dating.  Don’t forget to enjoy the butterflies in the stomach.

Fun Dating:  Don’t Forget To Have Fun
Even with all the scares out there and the necessity of keeping yourself safe; you, as a beautiful Goddess, need to be able to trust yourself and your instincts.  Keep yourself safe and protected at all times; but above all else, have fun!

All this advice about avoiding scams and predators when dating can leave you bewildered, and afraid to try it. Well, I am hear to remind you not to throw the baby out with the bath water. Its not all bad. Meeting people is not that hard and its not that scary.

As such, in this article I am going to try and give you some internet dating tips that make things easy again. After all, it should be fun, not scary or confusing. So here are my top 3 top internet dating tips:

Firstly, think about what you are doing. Most people jump straight into any old dating site, meet a million people and never really get anywhere as these people don’t have anything relevant to offer. So be a little different here and think about who you want to date and the experiences you want to share. Write it down if you like, to keep you on the straight and narrow.

Many people are full of advice about what you want, what type of people are right for you and what experiences are ok to have. The problem is that these people’s opinions more reflect what is right for them, not what is right for you. So if you listen to them rather than yourself, you are starting your dating process by looking for a date and experience that is suitable for someone else.

Listen to yourself, and be true to yourself. You’ll be ok. Specific dates and relationships may not work, but this is your journey to have, they are your mistakes and successes to have, they are your experiences to learn from, laugh and cry about.

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It’s so important to keep yourself safe, but it’s also important to enjoy yourself and the process.  Let us know what you think by commenting below.

Fun Dating: Drinking and Dating

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I had to laugh this morning when I read this article about how drinking too much is the same as dating.  It was an interesting metaphor on what to do in dating and I couldn’t help but feel empathy for the author as I read it.  I understand that sometimes, after a bad date experience, we will completely swear of men just as we will swear of the tequila.

Fun Dating:  Drinking and Dating
The moment a bad relationship ends or the asshole with the “Los Angeles” tattoo decides you’re “too good for him,” we want to give up. We’re done. Boys are horrible heartless assholes, and we will never love again. Or maybe I’m the only who is that extreme. But I think a lot of us cling on to the most recent memory of an experience, whether that is the last time we drank or the last time we dated. Good night on 6th Street? Let’s go again on Sunday. Fun date with the neighbor? Let’s meet again on Tuesday. If a guy doesn’t text us back or a drink makes us sick, we’re suddenly done forever.

But next thing we know, we’re getting back on the horse. Which is a dumb metaphor, because if I fell off a raging horse, I wouldn’t touch it again. Regardless, being excessive about our drinking or our dating throws us into a nasty cycle of extremes.

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I think it’s important to get back up on that metaphorical horse and try again.  How will you ever have fun in dating if you don’t keep trying?