So that dashing guy you met at the bar wasn’t quite what he seemed?
Bars and clubs might be traditional places to meet men, but let’s face it, the men you meet there might not be the men you’re looking for. If you want to find men of substance, get off the barstool and get creative.
If you want to meet interesting men, you need to lead an interesting life of your own.
Here are some new ideas for meeting Mr. Right—or Mr. Right Now:
1. Get Out of Town
There’s nothing like getting away from the daily grind to make you feel alive and open to new experiences. Free poolside daiquiris don’t hurt, either. An upscale, all-inclusive vacation can be just the place to find a man who feels the same way—and looks good in shorts, too. Whether you’re looking for an island fling or something more, just make sure you’re up front about what you’re looking for.
2. Check Out Their Toys
Men love to look at cars and boats, and your local car or boat expo will be full of all three. Bring along a girlfriend as your wing-woman and head to the show. As you’re pretending to look at beautiful cars (or not!), you can also look at the men. A few intelligent questions about that Roadster he’s eyeing can easily lead to something more.
3. Museum Quality
If you’re looking for the intellectual type, museums can be a great place to meet men. Pick a museum that genuinely interests you—if you can’t get enough Rafael, grab a sketch pad and head to the art museum; if you love history, ask that cutie with the notebook if he can read the inscription on that ancient Greek vase. Connect around your intellectual interests and you might find yourself continuing a fascinating conversation over dinner.
4. Come Out for the Cause
There is no better way to meet new people in general than by putting yourself out there for a good cause through charity work or activism. And if you’re looking to meet someone who shares your background or values, religious and cultural organizations are great places to volunteer. Not only will you make new friends, but you’ll meet some incredible men of conscience. Not only will you be helping your community, you’ll also be connecting with men who are caring, compassionate, and giving.
5. Try a Sample
If you’re the sensual type, wine tastings and food events are great ways to meet men with gourmet taste. Take a cooking class, attend a chocolate tasting, or learn how to ‘homebrew’. Delicious smells and tastes heighten the senses and put everyone in a sensual mood—and who doesn’t want to meet men who can cook?
6. Play a Round at the Country Club
If you’re into sports like golf or tennis, joining your local country club is a great way to meet men. Of course, just joining won’t be enough; you’ll have to spend time there, so make sure it is a place you enjoy. Country clubs also sponsor social events for members. Whether you’re perfecting your swing or having a drink at the nineteenth hole, you’ll meet men with common interests—and you might even find a new golf partner.
7. Read the Situation
Joining a book club can be intellectually stimulating, and if you find the right club, you’ll find some great men. They might be quieter than the types you’ll meet at bars and clubs, but maybe more intelligent and sophisticated—and if you’re the bookish type, they’ll be less likely than most men to be intimidated by your intelligence. By reading, you can explore whole worlds together—and who knows where you might end up?
There are plenty of quality men out there—and wherever you go in your daily life, keep an open mind. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation. And remember, having your own fulfilling life is the best way to attract intelligent, fulfilled men!
