Dating Dos and Don’ts: First Date Rules

When you head out on a first date it’s perfectly normal to be nervous and have thoughts go through your head that may not necessarily be supportive thoughts.  It’s important to be prepared for a first date so that these non-supportive thoughts are non-existent.  The more prepared you are for your first date the more relaxed and comfortable you’re going to be.  Then you’ll be able to just sit back, relax and have a great time on your date; showing him the playful, joyful Goddess that you truly are.

Be prepared with conversation openers and questions to ask him.  Show up on time and don’t ask questions that are overly personal.  Be open to new experiences.  Stay present with him and make eye contact.  Show him that you’re interested.  Most of this is common sense, but in the heat of the moment we can sometimes forget.  Thus, being prepared will help you to move through the first date with flying colors and get yourself a second date with him.

DO be on time. It is rude to keep somebody waiting. Plus, it makes your date feel trivial. What a bad initial impression!

DON’T set your expectations too high. Could this person turn out to be the love of your life? Maybe. But do not sit there envisioning what your children will look like, or how you must decorate the country home.

DO call a pal beforehand to get some encouragement. Feeling good about yourself can lead to a good first date.

Don’t be turned off by a radical first date. Standard first dates, like dinner and wine, can be costly. And, how well are you able to begin to know somebody if you are sitting in a movie theater?

DO show an interest in the conversation, and do all you can to keep it going. Ask questions and make eye contact. Nothing’s more unpleasant than a 1st date full of clumsy silences!

Don’t get too personal. Asking your date how much money they make is just rude.

DO talk about things that you find interesting. It’s very important to discover if the two of you agree on crucial issues before things get serious.

DON’T complain about other stuff occurring in your life. Your date doesn’t want to learn about the problems at work, or the fact that you had to spend four hours waiting for the cable guy last week. Nobody likes a whiner.

DO be yourself. If you make up a bunch of things on your initial date, and then you wind up spending more time with this person, they are going to find out the truth ultimately. Let your date begin to know the real you.

Don’t get drunk. It makes it impossible for your date to discover what you are actually like. And, someone who barely knows you is going to be turned off by the indisputable fact that they must take care of you as you stumble around. But 1 or 2 drunks (only) can help both of you loosen up and feel more relaxed.

DO attempt to be funny. It’ll lighten the mood if you can crack a joke every now and then. However , do not use the date as an excuse to try out your stand-up routine.

DON’T talk about your ex. It’ll only make you look bitter, or like you’re still not over them.

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