Dating Dos and Don’ts: Don’t Be Afraid To Use Other Avenues

When it comes to modern day dating the rules have changed.  No longer do you need to pick up a date at the local pub or wait for your friends to set you up on a blind date.  You can use different avenues of meeting men and there doesn’t need to be any discomfort surrounding it either.  With the Internet and social media taking over it is simple to meet great men online using Facebook or dating sites.

The system has been streamlined and although you won’t get the nerve-wracking enjoyment of approaching a strange man in person you will be able to get to know someone before you ever meet them in person.  Once you actually meet him in person you might have already developed feelings for him; which could make things even more interesting.

There is a stigma that accompanies the answer to the most commonly asked question to a couple, “How did you two meet?”  When the answer is online, there is usually an awkward pause while the person instantly regrets asking that question because now they have no idea what to say.

But, as the world slowly gets warmer (global warming – psh!) it also seems to be warming up to the idea of meeting people online as a real solution to dating.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that meeting someone online is a bad thing.  I don’t think that it should carry a stigma with it.  I am a firm believer that love can be found anywhere, and if that anywhere is Facebook, then that is wonderful.  The general population already spends enough time on that site anyway, so why not be productive with it.

And as the culture slowly warms up to the idea of online relationships turning into real life relationships, wonderful things are happening.  People who are too shy to speak to the “hot guy/girl” at the party can simply send a message online, and not fear the consequences.

There is no immediate embarrassment if things don’t work out like you wanted them to, and therefore no immediate  awkward tension.  Facebook makes initiating a conversation or an interaction with somebody as easy as typing in a message and sending it.

But, does that take some of the fun out of it?  Isn’t it exciting to walk up to a complete stranger – your mind racing for what to say to them – and going out on a limb.  The “what if I fail miserably,” becomes part of the excitement because you have to really ask yourself, “what if I fail miserably?”  You have to be prepared for that.

And on the other end of that spectrum is the “this could really work.”  You feel like a daredevil, like you could do anything after a successful conversation with an attractive stranger.  And even better if you set up something for later.  Maybe a dinner, maybe a walk in the park.  Like you’re on top of the world.

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