Dating Dos and Don’ts: Don’t Be Afraid To Be Hard On Yourself

As a woman on the lookout for great men it’s important that you are self-aware and able to look at yourself from a different perspective.  You need to make sure that you keep your standards high and refuse to settle just because he’s male.  Make sure that he meets your criteria and that there are no deal breakers.  Also make sure that you are being realistic in your list of things you want in a man.  Prince Charming doesn’t actually exist and a realistic outlook will go a long way in making you realize that a great man is right in front of you.

“Set your standards high, be patient, be disciplined. And when the right one comes along you will know and you will be available to leap and make it work,” he says.

But you’ve got to do your homework to be clear about what you want and why it hasn’t worked in the past, and what are your deal breakers. You’ve got to be ready both physically and emotionally, he says.

“First thing you want to do is to essentially make a pact with yourself to do things differently, that means breaking old habits, and essentially avoiding patterns that keep you single,” Aiken says.
Be prepared to be tough on yourself. Just think of it as a dating bootcamp.

“People are single not because they’re too picky, (but) because they’re not picky enough – and they end up spending all their time with the wrong ones, trying to change them into the right ones and it doesn’t work,” warns Aiken, who was single for two years before he found his wife.

He suggests taking some time over the new year break to really understand what you want, what you don’t want and where you’re headed.

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