The Fine Art of Bragging

Have you ever been at a party with a group of girlfriends and marveled at how your best friend can tell a story that captures the attention of the entire room? It seems, everyone thinks she has something a little bit uniquely fun and they want a part of it. Somehow they feel uplifted when she is sharing her day and her stories.

I admit I am a horrible story person.  I envy women who can and wonder where they got their savvy from.

The answer is… it all comes down to the fine art of bragging!  Now I don’t mean boasting – I mean bragging!

Bragging is simply the ability to acknowledge out loud some of your greatness and uniqueness and to be able to tell a great story about something that happened to yourself in a way that makes the listener or reader really feel connected to you. They feel your aliveness and your confidence.

Bragging is not Unladylike Behaviour!
I know – we have all been taught from a very young age that it’s inappropriate to brag.  We’ve been taught that it isn’t ladylike and we should refrain from talking about ourselves with pride.  That’s BS. Goddesses break the mold!

We need to embrace and share our greatness – our uniqueness – our triumphs. The world has to hear our stories and our ability to embrace and “up ride” both ourselves and those that are listening to us.

The Anatomy of a Brag:
In theory, you can’t just go around all day telling people how wonderful you are or how great your life is (aka boasting); because after a while you won’t seem so wonderful to anyone but yourself.

The real art of bragging comes from the storytelling.
When you learn how to tell a great story it doesn’t matter who (or even what) the story is about; people will pay attention. Because it is NOT about you per se; it is about the presentation and the feelings that a great brag brings up for you and the other person. It is a way of engaging and uplifting yourself and them at the same time.

So the next time you’re wanting to dish to your girlfriends about the amazing date you went on last night; how wonderful he was to you and how mind-blowing the sex was, remember to make it into a story.  Elaborate on the details and draw them out.  Be descriptive in your story-telling in order to capture their attention.  Don’t just say you had great sex last night and let it go at that.  Describe what you had for dinner, dish the details on the sweet nothings he whispered in your ear and, yes, goddesses; describe the sex in some detail if you are in appropriate company! Practice sharing your truth and greatness in a way that others can feel the joy and juiciness!!  I will say it again – the confidence that we exude when we have a great brag is contagious.

If you’re wondering how to learn this fine art of bragging the answer is simple.  Start small and practice, practice, practice!  Start with your close girlfriends.  Tell them what you’re trying to do and start by elaborating in small ways as you tell them your stories.  Work your way up until you are a master storyteller.  In no time, you’ll be the woman at the party that everyone is paying attention to.

One good brag a day is like a gratitude or attitude adjustment. It changes your life and others too in that moment.

Although many of us might believe that bragging isn’t appropriate it’s important that you realize how it will affect your relationships.  Bragging about your own life; whether it be your sex life or your career; our your harmless flirt with your single neighbour down the street will only inspire others around you to be as ballsy as you have been.  You will inspire your girlfriends to go after great men and experience fantastic sex.  You will motivate and light a fire under the people around you to fight for achievements in their careers that they wouldn’t normally aim for.

By bragging, you will pave the way for the people in your life to improve their lives and your relationships with your friends and the number of men you attract will sky-rocket.

Men like a woman who has confidence and can speak her truth
Bragging doesn’t just apply to telling a great story to your girlfriends either.  It can be applied in all aspects of your life; from the promotion you got at work to the inspiring conversation you had with a great friend to the online dating profile you post.

Men don’t hear many great stories from women…. they are hungry for a woman who can weave her confidence, sassiness and ability to ask for what she wants (and then go get it) into  a “brag”. Usually, um – woman vent or whine or talk circles around a subject (btw that is NOT bragging).

So, are you looking for quality men and wanting to have some fun in dating? Do you want men to fall all over you and have multiple dates?

Then… you need to learn how to BRAG well. Yes, I know it is going to feel awkward at first (as mentioned I personally am much better bragging in print than in person but I continue to practice!)

Needless to say good bragging is totally fun as well!